Hearing One Another
Because we are such an “informed” society, we can mistakenly think we already know what another person thinks. Tim Muehlhoff and Rick Langer show us effective ways to really listen and hear what others are saying.
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About the Guest
Rick Langer
Richard Langer (PhD, University of California, Riverside) is professor of biblical and theological studies at Talbot School of Theology and director of the Office for the Integration of Faith and Learning at Biola University. Together with Tim Muehlhoff, he is the coauthor of Winsome Persuasion, which received a 2018 Christianity Today book award in apologetics/evangelism. In addition to teaching and writing, they are codirectors of The Winsome Conviction Project, which seeks to introduce civility and compassion into our discussion of differences. An ordained minister, Langer previously served as senior associate pastor of Trinity Evangelical Free Church in Redlands, California, and as a missionary with Campus Crusade for Christ. He also speaks at seminars and conferences around the country and is a board member for Forest Home Ministries. He and his wife, Shari, have two grown children.
Tim Muehlhoff
Tim Muehlhoff (PhD, University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill) is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California, where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, persuasion, and gender. He is the author of I Beg to Differ and Marriage Forecasting, and the coauthor of The God Conversation, Authentic Communication, and Winsome Persuasion, which received a 2018 Christianity Today book award in apologetics/evangelism.
About the Host
Dave & Ann Wilson
Dave and Ann Wilson are hosts of FamilyLife Today®, FamilyLife’s nationally-syndicated radio program. Dave and Ann have been married for more than 38 years and have spent the last 33 teaching and mentoring couples and parents across the country. They have been featured speakers at FamilyLife’s Weekend to Remember® marriage getaway since 1993 and have also hosted their own marriage conferences across the country. Cofounders of Kensington Church—a national, multicampus church that hosts more than 14,000 visitors every weekend—the Wilsons are the creative force behind DVD teaching series Rock Your Marriage and The Survival Guide To Parenting, as well as authors of the recently released book Vertical Marriage (Zondervan, 2019). Dave is a graduate of the International School of Theology, where he received a Master of Divinity degree. A Ball State University Hall of Fame quarterback, Dave served the Detroit Lions as chaplain for 33 years. Ann attended the University of Kentucky. She has been active alongside Dave in ministry as a speaker, writer, small-group leader, and mentor to countless wives of professional athletes. The Wilsons live in the Detroit area. They have three grown sons, CJ, Austin, and Cody, three daughters-in-law, and a growing number of grandchildren.
Episode Transcript
Bob: It is going to take some time and some practice for most of us to begin to develop some of the winsome communication techniques that we’ve heard about today; and yet, the payoff is there. When we do, we will see stronger, healthier relationships. We can do that while we hold onto our convictions, without turning those convictions into absolutes that everybody else has to adhere to.
This is what’s at the heart of the book that Tim Muehlhoff and Rick Langer have written. It’s called Winsome Convictions. It’s a book we have in our FamilyLife Today Resource Center, and it’s available for you to order online. You can go to FamilyLifeToday.com to get a copy, or you can call 1-800-FL-TODAY; and we’ll send a copy to you. Again, the title of the book is Winsome Convictions by Tim Muehlhoff and Rick Langer. Order online at FamilyLifeToday.com, or call to order at 1-800-358-6329; that’s 1-800-“F” as in family, “L” as in life, and then the word, “TODAY.”
You know, what Tim and Rick have talked about today—having winsome convictions and holding to them firmly but graciously—that’s a part of what we try to do, here, at FamilyLife. David Robbins, who’s the president of FamilyLife, is here with me. David, we want to stand firm when it comes to biblical truth, but we want to do it in such a way that we demonstrate grace, and understanding, and humility; right?
David: Yes, this is what we seek to do at FamilyLife. We want to be winsome in our presentation of biblical truth in a very polarized culture. And we want you to be able to recommend to your friends to listen to a show or to get a resource—and they may be offended by Jesus and what the Scripture says—but they’re not going to be offended by the tone of how we’re talking and how we’re sharing the flourishing that can happen in a home, and amongst a family, because of Jesus and the ways of Jesus.
Bob: Yes; I hope our listeners feel comfortable sharing what they hear on FamilyLife Today with others. I hope we are holding to our convictions in a way that is winsome. We want to be trusted friends; and I hope that that continues to happen, going forward. David, thank you for being with us today.
I want to encourage our listeners to join us, again, tomorrow. We’re going to talk about whether it’s possible to heal from scars that happened during childhood to, ultimately, come back and forgive our parents when they wronged us in a significant way. Jason Romano from Sports Spectrum will be here to talk about the process he had to go through in dealing with that with his own father. I hope you can tune in for that.
On behalf of our hosts, Dave and Ann Wilson; I’m Bob Lepine. Join us, again, tomorrow for another edition of FamilyLife Today.
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